Our next feature goes out to a new blog! We are all about supporting start-ups because we are in the same boat! Everyone has to start somewhere! We love that these ladies teamed up to create a blog. This way you get two point of views on one blog! We are so excited to bring you this feature, both of these girls answered our questions in a way that brought tears to our eyes. The information is so relatable and of course ... "bona fide".
E: (on the right)
Who is your biggest inspiration?
My biggest inspiration isn't who you might think. My mom is amazing, and of course I look up to her. My sister and other women in my life are equally as big of an influence as my mother and grandma. But there is one individual in particular who continues to inspire me and influence me to be a better person every day. My younger brother, Marcus. Marcus has autism and faces daily challenges that most of us will never experience. He fights stereotypes and people assuming he isn't capable of much. They avoid him because of their own awkwardness around someone who is different then them. But Marcus doesn't care. He continues to be his amazing self. He accepts everyone for who they are. He doesn't see race, age or social class. He isn't impressed with expensive cars or designer clothes. He isn't intimidated by others and will go out of his way to approach a stranger and genuinely get know them. He doesn't criticize himself or self doubt who he is. He doesn't talk bad about others. He is charitable and generous. Every week he goes around the neighborhood and takes his neighbors garbage cans out on garbage day, and then returns them. He rakes his neighbors leaves. He will knocks on their doors and just to say hi and tell them to have a good day. He is loving and kind. He is the ultimate example to me of how to be a confident, accepting, happy, generous and loving person.
What is my life lesson I live by?
Call it cliché but I genuinely live my life with YOLO in the back of my mind. It reminds me to never take life too seriously. To have fun and make memories with the ones I love!
What is one thing you wish you could change about yourself?
Oh you mean other than my adult acne, resting bitch face, and cellulite? I would change my 15-22 year old self. The girl who cared WAY too much about what other people thought of her. The girl who desperately wanted a boyfriend so she'd feel as pretty as the rest of her friends. The Elise who wore too much makeup and could have been a lot more including and kind. I'd change that girl into someone who knows what she knows now. That happiness is found by being comfortable and confident with yourself. Not by trying to fit in.
Do you ever compare yourself to other bloggers?
Of course! You're lying if you say you don't. I think it's natural as a woman to compare ourselves to other women. Unfortunately, it's who we are and what we do as a culture. But I think it's important to remind ourselves that we are all different. We all bring something different, unique and cool to the table. I try to be supportive of other bloggers by building them up, because we all know there are wayyyyy too many people trying to tear each other down!
What's you're favorite sweet?
Anything and everything. I will eat anything with sugar in it. Ugh, I have such a sweet tooth! Luckily I have strong teeth, but unfortunately, I have weak skin. I'm trying to cut back on sugar to see if it'll help clear up my skin... Wish me luck!!
ELLE: (on the left)
What is one of your biggest weaknesses?
Weaknesses? Everyone has them. My weakness? I am a perfectionist to the extreme. Major OCD over here! HOLLA!! I have always had obsessive tendencies….germ issues…the whole enchilada. Now that I am a little older, I’ve been able to take my perfectionist weakness and hone it into a strength. “If you are going to do something, do it right.” However, that weakness is still that…a weakness. I feel like most women these days put a lot of pressure on themselves to be “perfect,” and I am no different.
When do you feel the most insecure?
I think everyone feels insecure about something at some-point in their life. I feel like the insecure phases of my life was more prevalent when I was younger….like 17-21 (but honestly, who wasn’t a big ball of confusion then?!). Now that I am more settled and comfortable with the person I am, I have a mantra-turned-motto that has kept my self-worth in check.
“The less I care, the happier I am.”
Maybe that sounds harsh?
It isn’t mean to.
Think of it like this: Someone says something rude about you? Don’t allow yourself to care. Insecurities come from within. The quote, “No one can make you feel inferior without your consent” could not be more applicable to these situations. Obviously, this realization of “I am who I am, and I like me,” came with time. I didn’t believe this about myself when I was 17…..19….. or even 21. Does this mean I NEVER feel insecure? Not at all. However, I have given myself a break, taken the time to get to know myself….and I like her
Do you believe social media has affected our society? In which way?
Anyone who says social media hasn’t impacted our society is lying. It has completely changed the game. We get the inside scoop of everyone’s life we follow. I think this is what gives people the idea that we all lead “perfect” lives. Sooooooo not the case!
I’m sure everyone who is an active participant in social media can say that people make their lives look “perfect” on Instagram, Facebook or on their blog. However, I honestly believe this could be twisted in a positive light. You get the chance to see so many beautiful and inspiring parts of your friends (whether in real life or through social media) life! How boring would Pinterest be if it was a bunch of pictures of dirty dishes, hamburger helper dinners and un-made beds?! We love viewing the beautiful We always have and I’m sure we always will.
I for sure am not one post a picture of my pile of dirty laundry, dishes in the sink or the stain on my t-shirt. I’m just not. Do you know what I think? Why would ANYONE want to see my dirty clothes with a Walden filter on it? REALLY…WHO WANTS TO?! The truth is, no one….and that is okay.
We all choose to share parts of our life that we consider beautiful….quiet moments, meals, projects or even a good hair day! To me…that is a great thing. If we all gave each other a break, we would realize that the girl that posted the picture of her quinoa kale salad in her $1000 heels has a pile of dirty laundry at home. We all do….because we ALL are imperfect. So yes….Social Media has impacted our society, but I like to focus on the positive.
We are so happy that Elle brought the postitve side up in Social Media! When we were talking about the message we wanted Be Bona•Fide to give off, we did not want this to be a site where people come to post dirty pictures everyday, or a place filled with negativity. We want this to be a place where we can build each other up. Bloggers are succesful because they create this element of escape for people. It takes A LOT of talent to create a pretty picture and we are not denying that. But I know all of us have the tendency to compare our lives to these hight-lights and we sometimes need a place where we can be reminded that nobody is perfect. We hope that this will be that place for you!
What is your guilty pleasure? I have a million. BUT…if I had to pick, it would be a big ol’ cookie while binge watching Seinfeld episodes.