Bright purple lipstick was how it all started, “it,” being my love for fashion and makeup. Just the other day, I was looking through pictures of when I was 5, and for some reason I came across a series of pictures my mom had taken of me strutting down the street accompanied by a new outfit, and to top it all off…my bright pink fluffy feather boa. Gosh I loved that thing.
I was about 6 years old and my mom and I had plans to go to our friend’s house for lunch. Seeing as it was one of my mom’s days off, we also had to run some errands beforehand. In order to motivate me, my mom told me I could go to the makeup isle and pick something out. ‘Should I choose the single Dr. Pepper flavored chapstick? Or should I go with the pack of 5 soda flavors? Oooh, or this sparkly pink roll on lip gloss that’ll for sure make dress-up a ga-jillion times more fun!!!’ I fell in love with the makeup isle. But to the right of all of these cute little girl lip gloss treats, I spotted a dark-purple-ish/magenta flat out LIPSTICK which, now that I look back, DIDN’T go with my hair color at all…didn’t compliment my eye color or the fact that I am ghostly pale with a dash of pink on my cheeks and freckles lining the coast of my nose. But the beautiful thing about it was that I didn’t care. I didn’t care that it didn’t go with my complexion, and that it probably clashed with the loads and loads of pink I was wearing. I didn’t care that some people might be looking at me (granted my mom actually let me get the lipstick) thinking, “Why did that little 6-year-old’s mom allow her to wear such a preposterous color!” even though they didn’t understand the story behind it. I didn’t care. And that was beautiful.
In this world, you have to make an impression. Whatever field you are in, whatever dreams you have for yourself will depend on the people you meet and the feeling you leave them with. As humans, I really do believe that each of us cares, at least a little, about the way we portray ourselves. Some of us do care more than others though. For instance, I have went into my iPhone settings—accessibility—speech—and turned on speak selection. I’ve had Siri read this blog write-up about 5 times because I want people to like it.
My start of social media was when I was about 13. I posted fuzzy, untampered with pictures that probably no one of any authority gave a second glance to. As I got older, I found myself taking pictures of everything and finding beauty in such little things. It was and still is a hobby of mine to find just the right shot, edit it just right, and post it, aiming for something over 300 likes. The issue with this? My Instagram is not really for ME, it is geared towards the pleasing of other people; strangers and friends. I find myself thinking, “I hope the people that see this picture really like it!” But it was their choice to follow me, and the worst thing that can happen is they hit that unfollow button and change it from a lush green to white. Why do I care so much what that person thinks if there is such an easy solution?
The thing about all of this is that we have to find balance. Movements like Be Bona Fide can help us to take our minds off of the jumble that we are constantly choosing to bombard ourselves with, myself included. I find myself scrolling through my Instagram feed with glazed over eyes, only to find a Be Bona Fide post that makes me snap back to reality and reminds me that I am in no way perfect, but that that’s more than okay. Be Bona Fide has reminded me that I can go back to being that little girl in the makeup isle, not caring about the details, but enjoying the present and loving herself. Love yourself. You are not boasting or being obnoxious when you give yourself extra special attention. You don’t have to broadcast this to others, but stare in the mirror and tell yourself you love how your eyes seem to glow today, call yourself pretty. Pay close attention to the days where you wake up, get ready, and feel like you’re ready to meet whoever comes your way with a sense of confidence and a feel-good attitude. Take the importance out of things; our planet is a lonely speck in the great enveloping cosmic dark. We are a tiny speck that goes about daily life, but we also can accomplish such astounding things. When you take the importance out of something, it helps to go out on a limb, to become more vulnerable, because in the grand scheme of things…let’s get real…what’s the worst that could happen?
We are so grateful for Alexandra and her efforts to help spread the word about Be Bona Fide! Alexandra allowed herself to be vulnerable in order to be relateble and to help lift us up, that is an amazingly selfless quality to have. We are so privileged to live in a day where technology allows us to connect to people from all over the world and learn about them. So... lets use it to learn grow and be inspired! Alexandra has inspired us from the first email we recieved from her, and we know our relationship will continue to grow.
From here on out, Laura and I plan to open this Blog up to YOU! We want to know what makes you BONA FIDE! If interested in being featured please email us at firstname.lastname@example.org.