"If you follow me on Instagram, you know I have taken on the challenge of removing the filter and being real with my followers through Be Bona Fide. While I have sure lost some followers since committing myself to real-ness, I have met so many new people who share a passion for telling their story. These people aren’t afraid to share their struggles, insecurities, and failures… And that takes a special kind of person.
See, too often we get caught up in all these perfect images surrounding us on social media platforms. While scrolling down my feed I am overwhelmed with feelings of inadequacy and jealously simply because I compare myself and my life to the pictures I see.
It got so bad a while back, before I found Be Bona Fide, that I deleted my Snapchat. I was flooded with anxieties of why I wasn’t invited, why I wasn’t having enough fun, why I wasn’t wasn’t trying enough new things every. single. time. I opened the app.
But Instagram wasn’t as easy to give up. I went back and forth for a while, but ultimately decided to keep it, and simply limit the amount of time I spent in-app each day. Around this time I discovered Be Bona Fide, and it completely reshaped the way I look at social media in its entirety. The women behind Be Bona Fide made me realize there’s this really important piece to the puzzle that you don’t often think about while scrolling…
You see what people want you to see. That’s it.
You don’t get to see the many attempts it took to take that selfie, the preparation leading up to that perfect meal, or the giant imperfection that was photoshopped. Nope, none of it.
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It’s not easy being authentic. It is a conscious choice every day, multiple times a day, on how to live. It takes practice, and as much as I would love to say I have mastered the art of realness- I’d be lying.
For me, it’s a constant battle between wanting to be accepted for the brokenness in my life, and not wanting anyone to know about it.
It is so easy to portray our “perfect” lives on Instagram, and even easier to judge those whom we do not agree with. This is why a few of my favorite friends and I decided to share our Bona Fide Confessions.
I printed out some of the confession sheets, available here, and surprised my friends during our senior photo shoot together. I have to say, I was taken back by their excitement. I expected some reluctance, as it is not easy to confess your quirks or insecurities, but they could not wait to join the movement. (Ahhh, this made me so happy. I love my friends)
We all did a couple silly, lighthearted ones and one really real one. One that isn’t easy to admit openly.
In the picture above are some of our very silly, very brave, and VERY real confessions…
If we replace the comparing, the judgment, & the picture perfect lives with a little more compassion, a little more grace, a little more acceptance… I think this place we call the internet would be a whole lot more inviting.
You all can join in on the Bona Fide movement! Go to bonafide.com and download the confession sheet, then post and hashtag your photo with #bonafideconfessions!
Sharing what makes us unique is not easy, but it is so so freeing."