Give Grace- by Madi Conrad

"Give Grace.  

Words I’ve shared over and over again in an effort to highlight the depth we have on each other’s lives. You hear it all the time…“love others” & “accept others,” but how often do we give ourselves grace? 

How often do we show ourselves love? How often do we accept who we are, our accomplishments, what our heart desires? How often are we content with our being, just solely because it is our being? 

How often do you care for yourself like you care for others? How often do you look in the mirror without pointing out every flaw? How often do you go to bed at night feeling successful & brave & significant?

We as people feel pressured to wear many hats, to prove that we are enough through our actions & abilities. But our expectations of ourselves are set unattainably high and are constantly overwhelmed with feelings of "not enough" despite how hard we may try to be.

I’ve been struggling to find balance in my day to day life. More in the last fifteen weeks than I have ever before. Just when I feel like I have it all under control, something comes and knocks me on my knees.  I usually go to bed wondering why I took a nap instead of going to the gym, why I didn’t call my Grandma or write those letters back to the sweet people who are thinking of me??? Why didn’t I start my homework in between classes instead of at 6:45 after my night class? Why, why, why? I tell myself I need to do better but then fifteen weeks later, here I am still struggling to find the perfect routine.  I have to remind myself that I’m not the only one struggling to find it. It looks so different on all of us. It’s a virtue, and I can try & fail over and over again.  

We hold so much power with our thoughts.  It is our greatest asset and our greatest detriment.  As someone who is constantly obsessing over if I am doing enough, if I’m pretty enough, skinny enough, brave enough, smart enough, grateful enough, kind enough, inviting enough, and someone who truly wants to be aalllllll of those things & more, i’m telling ya, it’s not realistic. 

We demand too much of ourselves. Unrealistic goals cause us to fall short. I do every. single. day. But guess what??? 

THAT IS OKAAAAAY!  

It's okay to make mistakes. It's okay to struggle through the day. It's okay fail over and over again. It's okay to take a break. It's okay if you can't do it on your own. It's okay to ask for help. 

That doesn't mean that we shouldn't try to be the best version of ourselves.  That doesn't mean we shouldn't set goals for ourselves and strive to achieve, if not surpass them. But it does mean that it's important to love yourself, accept yourself, and know that you are doing the best you can. Give yourself Grace. Shower yourself in big, overwhelming, abundant, relentless Grace. 

Find beauty in chaos, sunshine in the hurricane. You are doing the best you can.

And treat yourself like you wish to treat others." - Madi Conrad