MEET KRISTINA

Kristina has joined the Be Bona Fide team as our Event and Design intern and we are over the moon about it! I know we were meant to meet and add her to our BB tribe. Funny enough, both her husband and Laura's husbands are dentists and they met through a job opening from Kristina's husband's practice (so many "husbands"). The moment Laura saw her style and design, she knew they were soul sisters. Kristina is a mom of 4 and helps run her husband's dental practice as well, and is now joining out team... so basically she is superwoman. 

We asked Kristina to write a little about herself to introduce who she is, so let's get to know her a little better!

"I'll be the first to admit that I'm a little timid when it comes to social media. I might be what you call a "gawker". I love scrolling through posts and enjoy watching little snippets of everyone's life, but when it comes to sharing my corner of the world I shy away. As much as I love the connection social media provides, social media has a habit of making me feel inadequate like I'm not quite measuring up. I feel like I'm the only one battling chaos on a daily basis. My house is messy, I haven't showered today or gotten dressed for that matter, and my life feels like a circus most days, (hello I have 4 kids). So to be safe, I share my highlight reel; the good times, the vacations, the adorable kiddos, and I keep it very safe and distant.  I stray away from opening up, sharing too much, steering very clear of any vulnerable place that could present itself.

I think it's all too easy to make assumptions when peering through Instagram. It's easy to assume life is rose colored and perfect for everyone else but you. Bonafide helped me realize that I'm not alone in these thoughts and it's okay to share the good times, the hard times, and everything in between. I think we can all relate and there is a huge community of strong, accepting, and brave ladies out there waiting to cheer you on.

I also feel that the internet provides a voice to express, influence, vent, share, or whatever you want to call it. As I've tried to open my heart more to vulnerability, my eyes have been opened to so many amazing people who were brave enough to share their story. They opened up, got a little nitty gritty, told their story and made a huge impact. The Shine Project, The Archibald Project, and Be Bonafide have inspired me to share more of what makes me tick and what I'm passionate about. They have helped me realize just how awesome and impacting social media can be.

I truly feel that stumbling upon Be Bonafide was heaven sent. Their message resonates with me so deeply and helps me appreciate how beautiful imperfection can be. Their video (here) made me realize that pictures don't always share the "behind the scenes" efforts/frustrations. We are all navigating life, all going through the messy ups and downs of life along side each other. I know we are here for each other if we can open up and risk being a little vulnerable. The hard stuff usually has the sweetest edifying power and how awesome is it to have each other to lean on!

It's okay to be real, a little less filtered, and love my life in all its noise, dirty diapers and grocery store meltdowns amidst the peaceful, happy moments. It's my story and these details make it uniquely mine. It's my voice and my opportunity. Our stories make us stronger and connect us with so many other amazing women.

I hope during my internship that I can be part of and contribute to real, genuine connections between strangers. To witness women from all walks of life come together and open up is inspiring and powerful. Design offers a unique, intrinsic connection between our environment and our emotions. I hope I can help create a beautiful setting that can encourage a meaningful experience. I'm excited to witness this community of women come together to share and grow."

MEET AMANDA

"If you asked me a few years ago if I ever thought the internet could bring good to people, I would say no. Because I never thought that was capable, even for me. Over 2 years ago, I was scrolling through Instagram, I was following Hailey Devine when she did a collaboration with Be Bona Fide. I loved the quote and the message they were trying to pass around to everyone. “Numbers don’t define how insanely cool you are.” I was just barely starting to blog, so their message meant so much to me because I was getting upset when I watched people all around me getting more followers than me. I let that define me for the longest time, till that moment. Ever since then, I let the numbers go and focused on keeping my little space of this internet world, a positive place for people to go.

 Hailey Devine's print is available in our shop. 

Hailey Devine's print is available in our shop. 

I started to follow Be Bona Fide after that collaboration. I loved what they were doing and was in awe that they were promoting a lifestyle of people being genuine and real. During this time, I was going through the darkest part of my life. I was dealing with ADD, was in pain from scoliosis, and had realized that sometimes you lose friends that you trusted the most. I wasn’t real or genuine, I didn’t love who I was, and I let my flaws define me. I didn’t see any light at the end of the tunnel. I was scared and alone. There was one quote from Be Bona Fide that changed my life forever. The quote was, “It’s not meant to be perfect.” This quote touched my heart so much and made me realize that my life didn’t have to be perfect nor was it ever going to be perfect. Be Bona Fide changed my life and helped me learn to love who I am and the flaws that I have. Because of Be Bona Fide, I have been able to connect with people that I never thought that I would connect with, I have become friends with people from different walks of life, and I have been able to share my story with people that I never thought that would hear my story. Now, I get to say that I am interning for this amazing company. I am so happy and honored that I get this opportunity to help people share their stories and promote realness throughout the internet. My goals for this internship is to help more people be touched by this message, the way it touched my life. I want people to know life isn’t going to be perfect, it is going to have hard trials in it and sometimes they are going to hurt, but just know that there are people that will help love and care for you during these trials, so be yourself love who you are, and know you are so loved. You aren’t perfect, but you are worth it."  

> Amanda's words are the reason why this movement is alive- we are forever grateful that this movement brought us together! We actually met Amanda at our first pop-up shop in Riverside, California, which funny enough was where Amanda was from! She came and met us at the store and hung out with us for a couple hours. We got to know her a little better and built our new friendship from there. It has now been two years since we first met and now Amanda is interning with us! We cannot wait to continue this relationship with her and grow even more together throughout the internship. 

OUR BB SUMMER TEAM!

We are so excited for this summer with this amazing group of ladies. So much is in the works and we can not wait for what is in store for BB with ladies on board!

Get a name with a face below and read their favorite quote 

Meet Madi

What is your favorite quote/saying?

"We get so worried about being pretty. Let's be pretty kind. Pretty funny. Pretty smart. Pretty strong.

Meet Brynn

 I am a quote hoarder, They are all over my phone, room, car, everywhere. However currently my favorite is "Don’t wait for tomorrow. Don’t wait for the right job, the right house, the right salary, the right dress size. Be happy today. Be happy now.” - Joseph B Wirthlin

 

Meet Tessa

Quote/saying: “I used to think you had to be special for God to use you, but now I know you simply need to say yes.” - Bob Goff

Meet Rachel

 

Something you should know about me is that I have a habit of collecting quotes and sayings. I have a folder in my phone of endless screenshots of quotes and sayings, so picking just one was way hard! I decided to go with three that are most relevant to me right now:

          "No one is you, and that is your power."

          "Wherever you are, be all there." -Jim Elliot

          "If people knew how hard I worked

          to get my mastery it wouldn't seem

          so wonderful at all." -Michaelangelo

Meet Whitney

My favourite quote? What a toughie! I am a logophile, and literary fanatic. Of late, I've been captivated by the writings of Christopher Poindexter. So if I had to choose, I'd probably go with one of his, which reads "The thing about chaos is that while it disturbs us, it too, forces our hearts to roar in a way we secretly find magnificent."

Le fin.

Sending y'all LOVE & LIGHT.

Meet Jessica

Fav Quote: “There is no way to happiness. Happiness is the way.”

Meet Jayiln

Fav Quote: Quotes are my thiiiiing, I have so many favorites. This is my "theme" quote for 2016: “There is a season for wildness and a season for settledness, and this is neither. This season is about becoming. Don't lose yourself at happy hour, but don't lose yourself on the corporate ladder, either.” -Shauna Niequist

Meet Greta

 

What’s your favorite quote/saying?  Let's do what we love & do a lot of it.

Meet Lauren

 

Fav Quote:  My most favorite quote is "Courage, dear heart." by C.S Lewis :)

 

Meet Briton

My name is Briton and I’m so excited to get to know you.

I met Nicole working at Trunk Club here in Dallas and the first time I heard about her company something inside me fluttered with excitement. (Is that cheesy? I hope so.) Then I met Laura and together they’re so passionate and beautiful and fun, I just knew I had to be a part of it.

Be Bona Fide; be real, be you. This message has become central in my life. I love it. It makes me want to jump up and down. (But I’m a white girl and I can’t make it very far.) I want to be bona fide and I want you to be bona fide, because I believe that when we’re real, when we’re the people we were made to be…

Awesome Things Happen.

I want to know the girl that has thrown comparison to the wind and to put it simply, really likes herself.

And, I feel sorry for the girl that hasn’t.

The one that wakes up in the morning feeling the weight of all the pressure that comes with trying to be someone you were never intended to be. The one who looks in the mirror and can’t see beauty. The one that constantly measures herself against the other women in her life and in the end never wins.

I feel sorry for her, because I was that girl and I get it.

My freshman and sophomore years in college were brutal. Almost as soon as I moved into the dorms I developed an eating disorder and over the next two years it claimed more and more of my life.

I looked at the beautiful girls around me and felt like such a failure.

People contribute eating disorders to a control issue – you feel out of control so you start throwing up your food or starving yourself or working out for hours every day because it makes you feel in control – and I think that was part of it for me. But even more so, I think I was punishing myself.

I was so mad at myself for not being like the girls around me. For not being as skinny as them or as funny or as carefree. It was like I was trying to get skinny not so I could squeeze into a smaller pair of jeans, but so I could squeeze into a whole different life.

I didn’t like who I was.

But the funny thing is, I didn’t even know who I was. I hadn’t given myself enough space to figure it out. I was so busy trying to be someone else, I didn’t know me!

By the end of my sophomore year I was throwing up so many meals a day that my throat and nasal passage were totally inflamed and raw. I couldn’t swallow hard food anymore. And all of a sudden I had this flash forward and thought, is this how I’m going to be for the rest of my life? Am I going to be a slave to this for the rest of my life?

In that moment it made sense. This wasn’t the kind of life I wanted, this wasn’t what I had dreamed about as a little girl. I wanted to be FREE, I wanted to live a wild and precious life and there was no way I was going to be able to do it if all my energy was being poured into looking a certain way.

So I stopped.

Don’t get me wrong - it was hard. It took support from my family and counselors and most of all God. But it was done. And FINALLY the good stuff got to begin.

For me the good stuff was making the most unbelievable friends, getting to have a job that made me feel like I had real purpose, falling in love, and discovering what I was really all about.

At Be Bona Fide our mission is to encourage you to be real in a culture that’s striving for perfection. You may not be able to relate to my eating disorder. (And actually, I really hope you can’t.) But, we all live in this world that’s consumed with a desire for perfection in one way or another.

My definition was skinny. What’s yours?

When I look through my Instagram feed it’d be easy to fall back into my freshman dorm mindset. It’d be easy for me to think I want her legs and her arms and her hair and her house and her date nights and her clothes and her baby and her dog and her vacation.

But there’s always more to the story. Perfect and pretty are always paired with messy and ugly.

We all have both and I’m so glad!

I love the pretty and the perfect, but I also love the eating peanut butter out of the jar over the sink in sweats. Don’t you?!

Let’s stop all the comparing and striving and Be Bona Fide! Let’s make our worlds more fun, more special and more real. Let’s choose to be settled in who we are and let’s stop wasting time trying to be anything that we’re not.

Come be a part of our Be Bona Fide family. We want to know you, hear your story and be inspired by how you choose to #getreal every day.

Can’t wait ‘til next time.

XO,

Briton